Conversations Worksheet

Janet Williams
Jul 9
3 min read

Updated: Aug 12

Use these prompts to talk to your loved one about their care. Record their answers and wishes to share with other family members or the care team.

The Diagnosis Conversation

• What changes have you noticed in your memory or thinking?

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• Have others mentioned changes in your behavior or memory? [ ] Yes [ ] No — If yes, what did they say?

• How do you feel about seeing a doctor to discuss these changes?

• Have you experienced any confusion or disorientation? [ ] Yes [ ] No — If yes, what happened?

• What parts of your daily routine feel most difficult?

• Would having someone accompany you to appointments make you more comfortable?

• What questions would you want answered at your next medical visit?

• How have you been tracking your symptoms, if at all?

• How comfortable do you feel discussing your health with the family?

The Driving Conversation

• How do you feel about your current ability to drive?

• Have you experienced any close calls or accidents recently? [ ] Yes [ ] No — If yes, what happened?

• What situations make you feel less confident behind the wheel?

• How do others in your life feel about your driving?

• What would help ease the transition if driving becomes unsafe?

• Would you be open to a driving evaluation? [ ] Yes [ ] No — Why or why not?

• What alternative transportation options have you explored?

• What places do you drive to most often and why are they important to you?

• How do you feel about driving at night or in bad weather?

• Would you feel supported if family or friends offered to help with errands or appointments?

The Money Conversation

• How confident do you feel managing your finances right now?

• Have you had difficulty keeping up with bills or payments? [ ] Yes [ ] No — What has been challenging?

• How would you feel about someone helping review your accounts with you?

• Have you received any suspicious phone calls or emails? [ ] Yes [ ] No — Can you describe what happened?

• Who is currently designated as your financial power of attorney?

• Is your will or estate plan updated to reflect your wishes?

• Would setting up automatic payments relieve stress or confusion?

• What are your top financial concerns right now?

• Where are your important financial documents stored?

• Who do you trust to help manage finances if needed?

The Daily Help Conversation

• What daily tasks are beginning to feel more difficult?

• Are there days when preparing meals feels like too much? [ ] Yes [ ] No — What would help?

• What parts of bathing or dressing feel unsafe or uncomfortable?

• How confident do you feel about remembering to take medications?

• Have you experienced any recent falls or near-falls? [ ] Yes [ ] No — What happened?

• How have you been sleeping lately?

• Which household chores are hardest to keep up with?

• Would having a caregiver or assistant help you feel more secure?

• What tasks feel overwhelming right now?

• What would help make your days feel easier or more manageable?

The Future Care Plan Conversation

• What kind of care would you want if you could no longer live alone?

• Where would you feel most comfortable receiving care in the future?

• How important is it for you to stay at home as long as possible?

• Would you consider living with a family member if needed? [ ] Yes [ ] No — Why or why not?

• Have you thought about or visited assisted living or memory care communities?

• What values or beliefs are important in your care decisions?

• Do you have a living will or advance directive in place?

• Who would you want to make decisions on your behalf if you couldn’t?

• Have you talked with your doctor or care team about long-term planning?

• What would give you the most peace of mind about your future care?

Why Bring in a StilMee Coach?

Caregiving conversations can bring up fear, guilt, grief—or even old family conflicts. A StilMee coach offers compassionate, neutral guidance, helping families:

✅ Communicate with less conflict

✅ Understand dementia and care needs

✅ Create realistic, respectful plans

✅ Support both the care partner and the person with dementia

You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s start the conversation—together.

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